Best Restraints for BDSM
Whether you want to be restrained or you need something to force your bottom to stay still, a good quality restraint is what you need. While rope bondage is usually what comes to mind first, beginners are often better off starting with tape, as rope bondage can be tricky to get out of quickly. I love this Pleasure Tape by NE Bound. This tape is great because it sticks to itself rather than skin, so there’s no hair pulling, and you can reuse it. If you’re feeling creative, you could even make an entire costume out of this tape.
If you’re looking for more complete BDSM gear, try this sex swing that comes with restraints. The bottom can be bound with the wrist restraints, and the swing will help you try sex positions that may have been impossible before. Plus, the swinging motion gives the sub less control over their body, which makes it even sexier.
Best Discipline Gear for BDSM
iscipline gear is essential. If you’re planning on spanking with your bare hand for an entire session, guess what? Your hand might be almost as sore as your bottom’s bottom. Don’t do that. It’s better to warm up with your hand and then have a trusty paddle or whip to increase the sensation. If you’re looking for great value, try this paddle from Sportsheets. Made of polyurethane leather, this paddle is sexy and affordable for any budget.
Want to get into flogging? Try this best-selling leather flogger by Rekink. Flogging can be best for bottoms who love a stinging sensation rather than a thudding sensation, and it’s fun to learn. There’s just so much to love about flogging: it’s artistic, you can use a unique flourish, and the meditative rhythm may put the bottom into a lovely trance—it’s a feast for the senses. Plus, the Rekink flogger comes with a bag, and you know how much I love sex toys that come with containers. This flogger will be mailed to you discreetly, so no need to worry about what the neighbors think of your sexual proclivities.
Best BDSM Gear for Getting Into Character
If your bottom has been very good lately and you think they’ve earned a collar, or if you’d like to drop hints to your top about an accessory you’d like to be rewarded with, try this excellent Fur-lined Neck Collar and Leash, by Alerdon. The collar will be soft and comfy on the bottom’s neck, and the top can enjoy leading their pet wherever they please. Plus, this collar is compatible with nearly every size of neck and is quite durable. Collaring isn’t just fun for role-play—it can symbolize a serious step for the relationship if a top and a bottom have a formal collaring ceremony. In either case, this collar will perform soundly, and your bottom will never be more than a leash’s length away.
Now that you have your bottom exactly where you want them, why not grab something to keep them quiet? A ball gag, like this Silicone Collared Ball Gag, is precisely what you need. Made of silicone, you can rest assured it’s body-safe. Just remember to clean and care for it properly, and it will last a long time. Ball gags aren’t just about submission—they’re also about aesthetics. When your bottom is on a leash, gagged, and potentially salivating, it can give tops the feeling of ultimate control and summon their most disciplinarian side. It really does create the heightened, intense atmosphere that is necessary for the perfect scene.
So, there you have it! Peruse my BDSM gear suggestions before you and your partner get ready for an intense BDSM scene. If you decide to shop around on your own, ensure that everything you purchase is body-safe and will work with the lubes and barriers you plan to use. When you are stocked with the correct tools, you can focus on what’s important: seizing (or surrendering!) sexual control consensually with your partner.
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