Dungeon Delights
As a game and kink aficionado, I know that dungeons are equally fun when paired with dragons as they are when paired with a consenting, enthusiastic partner. A sex dungeon is a place where you can make all your darkest BDSM fantasies a reality whether you’re a top, bottom, or switch, and that’s something I love to help people do. Let’s talk about some of the furniture and other accessories you might encounter in a dungeon and how to use them safely.
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The Different Kinds of Dominants and Submissives
People who are new to or unfamiliar with BDSM oftentimes think that domination and submission are cut-and-dried roles. But one of the most fun things about BDSM is that it demands you use your imagination. So, there are as many kinds of dominant and submissive roles as you can come up with and enjoy. To help give you some ideas for your next kinky playtime, I’m going to unravel the different kinds of dominants and submissives. Then, you can conceptually try them on and see what (if any!) fit your fantasies.
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Benefits of Bottoming
People who have never joined in on all the fun that is held within the letters BDSM often wonder: why do bottoms do it? Who would volunteer to submit, to be restrained, and to face the blurry line between pleasure and pain, when instead, you could be the one in charge? These questions often arise for two reasons: the question asker is a top, or they haven’t realized the many benefits of being the bottom.
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Top, Bottom, or Switch: Where Do You Fit Into BDSM?
To begin, BDSM stands for bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism, and these components all involve some form of consensual power exchange during sexual activity. Trying new activities in bed isn’t just fun; it’s good for your mental and physical health. But, understanding whether you’re a top or whether you’re a bottom—in an activity you’ve not tried yet—is intimidating because it doesn’t always correlate with your outside-of-the-bedroom personality. So, if you’re curious about giving bondage a try but unsure where’d you fit into the power dynamics, take the quiz below to find out if you’re a top, bottom, or switch.
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Best BDSM Gear
Anyone getting ready for a BDSM session will need roughly three things to make it successful: the right mindset, the right partner, and the right equipment. Getting good quality BDSM gear is truly the best place to start. It can help you set the scene for intense BDSM encounters, which can help you get into the right mindset. Since I’ve used a fair amount of BDSM gear throughout my career, I thought I’d share my favorites, so that you can properly stock your nightstand for extreme fun.
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Handle with Aftercare: The Two Types of Aftercare, and What They Do
Those who are unfamiliar with bondage may think aftercare is another administrative, bureaucratic activity that kinksters engage in, much like negotiation. But, like negotiation, aftercare is not boring; it can be as sexy and fun as you want it to be! It’s not a drag, but one of the more bonding parts of bondage. So, let’s talk about types of aftercare you can provide and why it’s such a crucial part of BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism).
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Why Do People Enjoy BDSM?
If you’ve toyed around with the idea of trying BDSM but never taken that first step, you’re not alone. Many folks find themselves intrigued yet nervous about the idea of incorporating BDSM into their sex lives. I can tell you from experience that some very straight-laced, ordinary people that you would never guess are into bondage, are definitely into bondage. So let’s talk about what BDSM is and isn’t, why BDSM has such a devoted following, and what’s so fun about it.
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