The Intentional Guide to Better Sex
When it comes to the bedroom, many people just go with the flow. But what if you want to take your love life to the next level? What if you’re looking for something more intimate and connected? Intentional planning is one way to achieve this. In this blog post, we’ll discuss different ways that you can be more intentional with your romantic and sexual encounters. Whether you’re looking to add a bit of kink into your life or want to try a threesome, careful planning can help make sure the experience is fun and safe for everyone involved!
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The Different Kinds of Dominants and Submissives
People who are new to or unfamiliar with BDSM oftentimes think that domination and submission are cut-and-dried roles. But one of the most fun things about BDSM is that it demands you use your imagination. So, there are as many kinds of dominant and submissive roles as you can come up with and enjoy. To help give you some ideas for your next kinky playtime, I’m going to unravel the different kinds of dominants and submissives. Then, you can conceptually try them on and see what (if any!) fit your fantasies.
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How to Discuss Group Sex With Your Significant Other
Group sex, threesomes, and orgies are widespread fantasies of not just my clientele, but also of the average human being. It takes a certain degree of self-awareness to determine if you’re interested in actually acting out the fantasies you have or if you’d prefer to keep them in the recesses of your mind. It takes quite a bit more intuition to determine if group sex would be a fun, cool memory to make with your partner or a nightmare that awakens that ugly, green monster: jealousy.
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How to Have Safe Group Sex
Having group sex, whether a threesome, foursome, orgy, or whatever configuration you had in your head, is fun—so fun, I probably don’t even need to convince you. You never know what can happen when you’ve got that many people in the mix. But, there’s one thing you need to ensure before you can get started: that all the sexy activities will be safe. At the brothel, we take care of everything for you, and you can just lie back, relax, and give yourself over to the orgy. At home, you’re going to have to be pretty careful. So, I’ve compiled some tips so that you can stay safe and adventurous at the same time.
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Benefits of Bottoming
People who have never joined in on all the fun that is held within the letters BDSM often wonder: why do bottoms do it? Who would volunteer to submit, to be restrained, and to face the blurry line between pleasure and pain, when instead, you could be the one in charge? These questions often arise for two reasons: the question asker is a top, or they haven’t realized the many benefits of being the bottom.
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Best BDSM Gear
Anyone getting ready for a BDSM session will need roughly three things to make it successful: the right mindset, the right partner, and the right equipment. Getting good quality BDSM gear is truly the best place to start. It can help you set the scene for intense BDSM encounters, which can help you get into the right mindset. Since I’ve used a fair amount of BDSM gear throughout my career, I thought I’d share my favorites, so that you can properly stock your nightstand for extreme fun.
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Fun Facts About Foot Fetishes
Every single person on Earth has different turn-ons, and this is a good thing—sexual diversity is necessary for our continued pleasure, in fact. If everyone liked the same thing, not only would the world be a pretty boring place, but we’d all be in pretty heavy competition for the same type of people. For instance, if having vanilla sex with tall blondes (or petite redheads!) and men with strong jawlines was the only kind of sex we all wanted, we’d be having very little sex, except for those who were in hot pursuit. Kinks and sexual deviance make space for more people to have pleasure, and that’s something we can all appreciate. So let’s talk about one of the most common fetishes around: the famed foot fetish.
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Handle with Aftercare: The Two Types of Aftercare, and What They Do
Those who are unfamiliar with bondage may think aftercare is another administrative, bureaucratic activity that kinksters engage in, much like negotiation. But, like negotiation, aftercare is not boring; it can be as sexy and fun as you want it to be! It’s not a drag, but one of the more bonding parts of bondage. So, let’s talk about types of aftercare you can provide and why it’s such a crucial part of BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism).
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Why Everyone Needs Intimacy—and How to Find It
There are so many stereotypes that our culture just won’t let go of—and one of the most harmful is that masculine men don’t need close relationships. It’s old fashioned and destructive, yet it controls the lives and diminishes the happiness of so many men. The idea that you’re less vulnerable the less intimate you are is just not accurate. Science bears out time and time again that social isolation is dangerous for your health, and having relationships—close relationships—is the key to a long life. Though some might think it’s manlier to fear intimacy, the truly hardcore thing to do is to face that fear, and seek vulnerability even if it is challenging. So, let’s talk about what it looks like when you lack intimacy, and how to create a path toward intimate relationships in the future.
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Healing Sexually From a Divorce
When you get a divorce, you need time to heal. You’re grieving the death of a relationship, of a vision you had for your life, and of an identity you held as a spouse. You must take time to remember who you were before the marriage before moving on to who you want to be, now that you are single again. Sex work can make this process a bit easier and, dare I say, fun. So, don’t feel like you have to go through this alone, when I can partner with you to ease the loneliness and kick start your sexual healing.
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